What are the signs your marriage will end in divorce?
Marriages were initially meant to last long, till death do us part.’ But have you ever thought that you could be separated from your spouse without having to die?
Before divorce happens, there are signs to watch out for, glaring red flags which you can bring down.
15 Signs Your Marriage Will End In Divorce
Being open to this fact and preparing yourself before and in your marriage will help; scroll down to see 15 signs that your wedding will end in divorce.
1. Lack Of Communication
When it becomes challenging to hold simple conversations without conflict, your relationship is going through the downside, and you need to act fast to save it.
If this continues over time, it will lead to disastrous outcomes such as divorce. Lack of communication will result in not knowing each other’s lives, and eventually, one would stop caring to find out.
2. No Commitment
Commitment is a key and essential factor in any relationship, the same as marriage. If the effort you put in to be committed to the marriage is dwindling, something must be fixed.
Without being committed to the marriage, it will be easy to give up on it.
Commitment also makes intimacy, love and compromise achievable, and their absence will lead to a downturn in the relationship.
One who is not committed to marriage will not attach importance to it and can decide to seek a divorce at any time of slight disagreement.
Cheating is undeniably a sign of a planned divorce. Even though they say it was a mistake or was not intentional, there is a high chance that they will repeat the act.
Cheating brings enormous distrust, and a lack of trust will create a rift in the marriage and possibly result in a divorce.
Compatibility is important in marriages. If your interests are incompatible, there will surely be issues and disagreements resulting in a divorce.
When the interests of the two parties involved are always clashing, and there is no way to resolve them, it will spring up hatred and one person may no longer be interested in the things done by the other.
5. Lack Of Intimacy
When a couple does not share the closeness and bond required to strengthen the relationship, there will be no happiness, and they will eventually become separable.
Intimacy is the oil that greases a relationship, it makes it easier for problems to be resolved and peace to thrive.
It is advisable to confront a partner who no longer seems interested in being intimate before it develops into a scenario where the husband no longer understands his wife, possibly leading to a separation.
Abuse in any form, be it physical, psychological or emotional, puts a person suffering it in danger.
If any of the spouses in a marriage is a potential abuser, an abuser or has started showing traits of it, then divorce is the only way out in that marriage.
Abuse can lead to death, loss of a body part and trauma and it is advisable to stay away from abusers.
It does not matter the amount of love you have for the person, your safety matters firsts, and you need to be away from such people.
7. External Influence
Apart from a couple’s decision to divorce, interference from external sources can lead to divorce.
Influence on the couples by their own families, friends, counsellors, co-workers and even films they see could lead them to make decisions such as divorce.
Also, if a couple listens and yields more to external influences and thoughts than the partners there are married to, there will be trust issues and low self-esteem in the relationship.
This is because the partner who gives the ignored advice will feel inferior and likely begin to abstain from contributing to family discussions. Allowing a third party into marriage will crumble the marriage.
8. Medical Issues
When reciting wedding vows, a couple agrees to stick to each other in sickness and in health. Although this is beautiful, some medical impediments could lead to marriage divorce.
These include sterility, being barren, manifesting genetic diseases, etc. Such diseases could be traumatic to the couple and eventually lead to divorce.
Before thinking or accepting marriage, it is important to be sure of oneself medically. Even though the couples may promise to stick together forever, one might go weary and tired at a point and seek separation.
9. Trust Issues
When you find it difficult to believe your spouse’s words and justifications, your relationship may divorce. This is a sign that you must not ignore.
Trust issues lead to an absence of peace because you will always feel uneasy about what they say or do and will embark on personal investigations to know the truth.
This is emotionally, mentally and physically exhausting, and you need to seek professional help on how to deal with this. Without trust, no relationship will last.
10. Difficulty In Compromising
Relationships thrive on compromise, the ability of couples to sacrifice qualities, dreams and physical material.
With this, compatibility can be achievable. When a couple begins to have difficulties compromising, the relationship will always be in heat.
This could lead to searching outside for people and options that better suit them. Difficulties in compromising result from selfishness, and a selfish person wants dominion over everything. This is bad quality, making it difficult for the relationship to last long.
11. Lack Of Contentment
It is essential to be content in a love relationship. If you or your spouse are not contented with what you can afford while striving to earn more, with your shapes and body sizes while working out for the perfect body, then the marriage is bound to go south side.
Eventually, the partner would begin to nag about it making it difficult to co-exist or search outside for the things and qualities they want.
A discontent person will grow greedy, which is not the right quality for a marriage partner. They could seek divorce to be free and get whatever he wants.
12. Fake Lifestyle
Faking one’s feelings, emotions, capacities and capabilities will lead to a divorce in a marriage.
A fake is a list, and a list can not be trusted. Couples must come clean about every aspect of their lives before getting married. Otherwise, it might be too late when the truth is realized.
It will be hard to trust a person known to have a fake lifestyle because it is believed that they will go through extra mile to be plausible. Deceiving your partner could lead to absolute distrust and hatred when you are found out, resulting in divorce.
13. Being Secretive
Keeping secrets and constantly taking decisions without the knowledge of your partner could lead to a divorce.
This is applicable in two ways you might begin to think that your partner is keeping secrets too, and your partner will find it difficult to trust you. When you are going through dark or problematic phases, let your partner know about it.
They could decide to stick by your side through the phase. This is better than being found out later and having to go through issues such as distrust, arguments, separation and possibly divorce.
14. Financial Issues
A relationship needs finances to grow and fuel it. Money is essential to pay bills, buy food and generally afford the cost of living and in the absence of this, the relationship will begin to experience hitches.
Financial issues such as loss of jobs, decrease in salaries reckless spending of funds will make a living together problematic and seeking a divorce would suffice as a way out.
When there are money problems in the family, watch out for the possibility of a separation.
15. Differences In Ideologies
People who do not have the same or similar ideologies will risk not being able to tolerate others’ beliefs and ideologies.
If a marriage is built on separate ideologies and beliefs, that marriage stands the risk of being in turmoil soon.
Their tolerance for each other may wean when their beliefs conflict and life issues begin to rear their way. Tolerance is important for a couple to survive together in peace, enabling the marriage to stand the test of time.
Differences in ideologies are a threat to tolerance and could crumble a marriage.
It is possible to take preventive measures and watch out for these signs to have a lasting marriage, but this is not a guarantee for one. Do your best in your marriage; it may be people’s marriage goal or not.